Toxic FRIENDS!!!!!

Reading my blogs you will find there are things right with me and there are things hella wrong with me. Like the fact that I put up with toxic friends. If you don't know what a toxic friend is, I took it upon myself to make a list of toxic friends who I have came across over the years!

• Someone who wants you to always be at your their every pecking call. They need you when THEY need you but when the table are turn they are hard to find.
• A girl who never has anything nice to say about you, your man, your life or your situation. She subliminally hates on everything your doing and ever tried to do. She stays competing with you and can never let you shine.

• A girl who always trying to bring dirt around you. She always has a trick up her sleeve or some type of illegal operation she working on.
  

If you have a friend who matches any of these discription than YES you have a toxic friend. I have dissmesd these women and some of these woman I still keep around.

There is this one friend in particular I wish I never would've met! We have been "frienmies" for about 12 years. I honestly don't like her and I roll my eyes every time she calls me. I know she doesn't want anything or has anything nice to say. I talk to her for complete entertainment. It's hard to talk to her because she doesn't listen and therefore I have very little to say.

Just recently shit hit the fan when she came over for my b-day. I didn't want to invite her to small b-day party but I figured she was on of my friends so why not. I had a few friends from work, a few childhood friends, some cousis and some of my bf friends and family come over to help me celebrate a new year. People showed up drinks were flowing the music was nice everybody was having a good time. This was the first time Tina had ever been to my place so she had me meet her at the front gate. I didn't want to leave the party cause we were having so much fun. I couldn't understand how everybody else madfe it up without a problem but she was having such a hard time. My boyfriend met her at the gate and she came up. She got inside and we did the fake "I miss you" hugs and I poured her drink. I gave her a quick tour of the apartment where she had something negative to say or compared her life to mine about everything. I let it slide but I could tell she was getting jealous by all the friends who came out to support me. She wanted to know everything about everybody. She really didn't care she just was being nosy and wanted to compare. I was her only friend and there is a reason why.

The night was going good when we started a grown up disscussion about how many dicks was too many for a woman to have. Everybody was giving there thoughts about and then the discussion turned into prostitution I wanted to end it there but before I could she says "Since you and your man share everything how does he feel about you occasionally sleeping with guys for money?" I immediately started sweating with anger. I have never been so embarrassed i didn't know what to say. She embarrassed me in front of my friends and man. I looked around and asked her who she was talking to. "YOU!" she said. I smiled, shock my head and started a discussion about prostitution should be legalized. I never even addressed her. 10 min later my boyfriend gave her, her coat. "What's this for?" she asked. "Oh we wrapping things up. You were the last one here so your coat is first on the bed. No offensive." He explained. "I have a long drive anyway." she said. She grabbed her coat and left. The room felt lighter and I felt as if I shouldn't have invited her. People kept talking and drinking and enjoying the night until about 3 in the morning.

Our guest had left and we were cleaning up. I sat down explained what Tina was talking about to my boyfriend. He replied "Baby you don't have to explain. I love you the same. Everybody does things they aren't proud of. Your friend was not being a friend tonight. Get rid of her babe. She's jealous and it's so obvious. When I met her at the gate she asked me to park her car. I told her to park that piece of shit car herself. " I was shocked she asked him to that. He's not no fucking Valet! For her to ask him that made me believe she looked at him as someone who is only good enough to park her car. I'm done with her. I don't answer the phone when she calls.

I have to get rid of my toxic friend. Only problem is I want her to continue seeing how good I'm doing. I want to keep her around but I don't. I still haven't addressed what she said. I just blew it off cause nobody seemed affected by it. She calls from time to time and still thinks we are friends. We are not. One day I'll kick her jealous ass to the curb. One day.....

UPDATE!!! Should I leave?

Since the last blog things have changed a little in our relationship. I packed my things with the threat of leaving to see if he was going to buckle to what I wanted......... HE DID!!! I packed my things and he called and called to get me to reconsider my thoughts on leaving. Just the thought of him calling made me to weak to leave. By 5:00pm I was packed and ready to go but I knew I wasn't leaving. He worked a double shift, I knew he wasn't going to be home untill about 11:30pm so I never responded to his text for me to call him. Around 11:47 he walked in and instead of him doing his usual which is to sit down on the bench in the foyer to take off his shoes I could hear him rush into the apartment and straight into our room to see if I had actually left. When he clicked on the lights he buckled his knees a little bit and smiled with teary eyes. We hugged for about five minutes and it felt good. It felt good to know that he actually loved me and cared wether or not I left or not.

That night he asked me to give him 6 days to figure out something regarding his son. Four days later we purchassed a sofa bed so his son an daughter can sleep on. When Monday came around I went over my moms but it was warm that day so he asked if me and my 7 year old nephew wanted to go out. We met up at a local park and he introduced me to his son. The kid played around and we played around it was a lot of fun.

We are going to take it slow and ease into introducing me to his children. the sofa bed is there so his kids can get used to used to sleeping in there own bed when they come over. Eventually we are going to get a two bedroom. We are just going to wait util one becomes available in this building because we like it here. We are going to work it out. Ilove him jus as much as he loves me. Thanks for all the comments!!!!